Stopping the Panic Talk
Have you ever caught yourself panicking and talking to yourself about a worry or problem? We’ve all done it and speakers do it too.
“What if I fall asleep and miss my flight?”
“What if I talk and no one likes my speech?”
“What if they ask me a question and I don’t have the answer?”
The voice in our head expresses our anxiety, our feeling of a lack of control, our focus on our past errors, our worries that we may repeat mistakes and our problem of us thinking too much on what might go wrong.. a scenario we have played out based on failure.
Let’s acknowledge our worries, tell ourselves it is based on the feeling that we cannot control what might happen.
What if we listened to the panic voice? We would never overcome challenges, self-doubt, repetitive negative thinking and move forward to learn from mistakes.
Children don’t have long histories of problems they have encountered when they try something new. They often feel humor and laughter instead. I remember when I was about seven years old, travelling to Italy on a propeller plane over the Alps – suddenly there was extreme turbulence. My brother (two years older) and I laughed and whooped at each bump. I remember in my young mind equating it to a roller coaster ride. My parents were terrified.. what if we all died? what if the children died? Now when I travel and encounter turbulence, I close my eyes and imagine I’m in a 4 x 4 truck on a bumpy dirt road, I breathe deeply and relax as much as possible, I realize that there are experienced pilots on board and I don’t think of “What if’s”. When there’s someone sitting next to me, I will try to chat calmly to make the time go faster and try and help them if they are worried too.
Try to think, if this was someone else right now, going through this worry and fear of what could happen, what advice would you give them to feel better? Often we are able to give others great advice and not apply it ourselves.
We all want to be aware of panic talk and how we feel when we do it.. is it based on feeling lack of control? fear? worry of repeating mistakes? imagining scenarios?
What will you do to prevent panic self-talk next time?